Sex myths exposed

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Dr. William Peck, member of the American Fertility Association Board and the AFA Mental Health Advisory Council blogged about persistent sexual myths.

1. Men want sex more than women do. FALSE
Sexual “desire” is not a function of gender. Women generally work at an office all day and come home to work in the house at night. She’s tired. Hormones also play a role in female sexual desire for good and bad. Because women usually have an emotional basis for sexual desire, the relationship with their partner has to be in a satisfying place. Unlike men, for whom sex can be a release from their tension. An additional myth related to this topic is that men think about sex every seven seconds. Not so. According to a 1994 survey from Sex in America, 54% of men think about sex daily, 43% think about sex a few times a week or month, and 4% less than once a month.

2. Happy couples always have good sex. FALSE
Psychologist Barry McCarthy says that many couples are actually confused about what makes up good sex because of the media images we see everyday. According to him, 10% of the time, sex is really good for both partners. 40-50% it’s good enough for both. 10-15% it’s good enough for one or the other. And 10% of the time not good for either one. Those earth shattering simultaneous orgasms created in the movies are a rarity.

3. Men reach sexual peak at 18; women at 28. TRUE
At least it's true hormonally. “But peak hormones don’t mean peak sexual performance,” says Marc Goldstein, MD, professor of reproductive medicine and urology at Cornell. Several factors go into great sex. Hormones are only one component.

4. A penis can be too small for a vagina. FALSE
The vagina is “potential space.” It expands and contracts as needed for sex or childbirth. While there may be personal preference for size, rarely is there a physiological misfit, and that would be too large, not too small.

5. Having sex in water will kill sperm. TRUE
Nevertheless, it’s still not a recommended method of birth control. The optimal temperature for sperm production is below the average body temperature.

6. I’m not getting pregnant because sperm is leaking out of my vagina. FALSE.
Loss of seminal fluid after intercourse is normal. The vagina space contracts after sex (see number four above). If your partner ejaculated inside you, you can bet enough sperm made it to the cervical mucus. Post sexual discharge is not a cause or indicator of infertility.

7. A man can judge his fertility by the thickness and volume of his semen. FALSE
It only takes one sperm to achieve pregnancy. The volume and consistency of the semen is not related to fertility potential, which depends on sperm count as well as the morphology and motility of the sperm.

8. Since I have a healthy sex drive and achieve erection easily, my sperm count must be normal. FALSE
There is no connection between a healthy sex drive and fertility.

9. Excessive masturbation can cause sperm to disappear. FALSE
Masturbation is normal and doesn’t effect sperm count. A man does not run out of sperm since his testes will create new sperm throughout his lifetime.

10. If you are a great lover, you can please anyone. FALSE
Everyone is different and while it may be true that an experienced lover could know a few tricks over an inexperienced one, good sex has as much to do with perception and the brain as technique and genitalia. Get to know your particular partner - sex is physical and emotional above all else.

Source: AFA


 
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