One of the hardest things about making a decision about the next family building step is when you and your partner do not agree on the next step or the timing of the next step. Often, partners move at different paces. The good news – it isn't necessarily bad.
If you are like most couples facing decisions about using donated ova or sperm, one of you will be ready to consider this alternative path to parenthood before the other. When this happens, the person who wants to move forward is often upset and angry with the one who says, "I'm not ready" or "We need to try . . . again."
Couples often have a way of balancing each other. One of you can sound--and feel--eager to explore options beyond conventional treatment in part because you know that your partner will slow you down and help insure that you make wise, informed decisions. Similarly, you who are trailing at the rear can afford to take it slowly because you know from past experience that your spouse is well prepared to take the lead.
A little grace, patience and love can go a long way to building bridges.
Angie
MyFertilityPlan.com
