Choosing an egg donor is one of the most challenging decisions you will ever make. My best advice--developed over ten years of experience--is to look for someone who you like on a personal level, rather than someone who looks just like either intended parent. Look for someone to whom you feel drawn, someone who feels "familiar". These feelings should be reinforced by what the potential donor has to say about themselves in their essay responses.
You will want to find an egg donor who is healthy, bright, and looks like she could fit into your family while resisting the urge to look for a replacement for yourself. We are each as different as snowflakes and will never find an exact physical match. While that may be your goal when you begin your search, it can be a frustrating and futile exercise. Look at each egg donor as an individual and appreciate the unique characteristics she may contribute as well as the things you have in common.
For more assistance in choosing the right egg donor, talk to Gail Sexton Anderson at
http://donorconcierge.com/
MyFertilityPlan.com
