What Not to Say to a Friend Who Has Had a Miscarriage

It was God's will.

It was meant to be or it was for the best.

Your baby is in a better place now.

Time heals all wounds.

I know just how you feel. (unless, of course, you have experienced the loss of a baby)

It's been ___amount of time and aren't you over it yet? It's time to get on with your life.

At least you have other children/you can have other children.

Now you will have an angel in heaven.

It could have been worse...

Remember, when a woman is going through a miscarriage, she is mourning over

• the death of her child

• the fact that she will not get to hold her child or meet her baby face to face

• the knowledge that she will not get to watch her child grow up and will always wonder if her child was a boy or a girl, she will not get to see her child’s personality develop or see her child achieve his/her dreams

• her empty womb - she may still feel all the symptoms of pregnancy, but her brain now knows that there is no baby in there. There is a void there.

• a sense of failure. I haven’t met a woman yet who’s miscarried and hasn’t wondered if it was somehow her fault. She failed, her body failed, she’s being punished for a past mistake, she shouldn’t have eaten this or drank that - all of these thoughts can easily play through the grieving mommy’s mind.

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