If you’re pregnant and someone you care about is going through infertility, take this advice from mind/body guru Dr. Alice Domar:
Don't take it personally. Individuals and couples who are experiencing infertility tend to feel uncomfortable, and even saddened, by pregnancy announcements, the presence of a pregnant woman, baby showers, newborns, and baby/child birthday parties. This is a completely normal reaction to infertility and it does not mean that your sister/friend/cousin is a selfish bitch. It simply means that being dramatically reminded of what she wants more than anything in the world -- but hasn't achieved yet -- can be too painful to bear.
Easy does it. Continue to treat her the same as your other friends in terms of inviting her to your shower and letting her know when your baby arrives, but don't email her the prenatal ultrasounds, don't call her with the gory details of your morning sickness, and do not feel offended in any way if she declines to attend your shower or come visit you in the hospital. She is simply struggling with an extremely difficult life crisis and is trying to minimize her agony.
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