Supporting Dad after a Miscarriage

There seems to be an almost non-existent recognition of the fact that fathers suffer from feelings of lost dreams, loneliness, failure, and loss of identity when a child has died. Very rarely are comments of support made to the father in a family when a child has died. For some reason, our society seems to be more in tune to the feelings of the pain a mother experiences during child loss. Fathers are somehow expected to be stronger emotionally, and they are expected to heal much sooner.

Many fathers who experienced miscarriage who came to realize that there would not be a little girl to watch grow up or a little boy to play ball or go fishing with. A dad's dreams of children are just as real and meaningful as the mom's.

The typical male attitude in the face of crisis is the fix things. Sadly, a miscarriage cannot be fixed. There is nothing but time that will heal the scar of the loss of an embryonic life. In that light, a father will feel powerless and hopeless to address his own feelings and the sadness experienced by his partner.

Don’t hesitate to talk to dad about the loss. Say something - anything - and be prepared to listen.

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